Sounds fine to me if he wants to say "If you want to stay married, then......". That sounds OK to me at the proper timing. Not sure Mrs OIN is far enough over OM to be giving an ultimatum right now.
Challenging his wife now while the affair is falling apart and her work is a bees nest of gossip is not likely a good strategy...
If the affair isn't a fun place to go, and work isn't a fun place to be anymore...
Make the HOME FUN in my opinion..
The routes that looked more attractive to her are closing... I think that's the time when you take a warmer approach...
Glim you hit it on the nose, timing is important right now...
Until the withdrawal follows through fully OIN your wife is going to be difficult... its a LOT easier to use proper DBusting techniques when there's no third party attacking your marriage.
I never resorted to name calling or attacking my wife's value while she was cheating.
I never complimented her etiher. I attacked the behaviour of lying and cheating ONLY.
And if I had told my wife "you're no prize" when she was cheating on me she would feel miserable right now and my work would be a LOT HARDER...
It's bad enough repairing a marriage OIN when YOUR wounds need healed, why do damage to her that you have to repair later?
Because i never attacked my wife when she was cheating, my work NOW is a LOT EASIER than it could have been. I just see attacking her as being no prize an injury OIN that you will have to spend months repairing later on down the line.
Ya telling her she's "no prize" may wake her up, but I honestly doubt it... And I don't think its worth the risk of the damage that might be done.
She's just going to tell her father, and he's going to press her in earnest to leave... OIN you've been spending months showing her the better you... why ruin that NOW by resorting to attacking her?
