He called back 20 min later and left a message. He is out boppin' around and wants to 'take' DD16 to get new tires for her car. Please call him.
I told DD to call him. I thought I had 'trained' him to deal with the kids directly. He seems to think that has changed. Anyone ever try to make plans for a teenager? He knows how hard it is to pin her down. And why involve me?
Anyway...she called him back 20 min later, and he told her he didn't have time. ?????
I'm not seeing a pattern. Just increased interest in chatting w/me and increased interest in kids. He is still picking and choosing where he wants to be responsible to them rather than a true responsibility to them. DS is sitting around with a broken arm and limited activity b/c it is not in a cast yet. He is missing our friendship but doesn't want to 'be' a friend to me.
Sometimes he is 12 and others he is 17. From what I know of that time in his life, it is possible he skipped the developmental stages there. The selfishness teens go through, the ego-centric times to break from their parents were missed. He went right from being a child to being responsible adult. This must be where he is now. Not accountable to anyone. Focused on himself, his pleasure, his time to spend as he sees fit, his, his, his. In a non-committed R that cannot go anywhere. No goals or plans beyond today. This is normal for a teenager. That's 5 years he has to make up for.......arghhhhhh
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