Hi Jackie (((((HUGS))))). You know what? I think you should hang around in piecing for a while to see how things play out. Why? My H moved out back in July and I was devastated, but with DB/DR and a lot of patience, I moved over here because of the progress made of late.
Your H will probably enjoy his "freedom" for a bit, but then the reality of missing his home, his kids and even you will hit. During August I tried to go dark but went too literal on it and that didn't help his anger. But when I started to act lovingly detached in September, we began communicating better. By early October, we actually sat down alone and conversed. It cleared up a lot and since then we have been having an EA with each other. You'll have to visit my thread to see that it really wasn't this simple - but you get the idea.
This will be very hard, but enjoy some Jackie time. I hated it at first when my kids went to spend time with daddy, but now I love the time alone. And yes, they will think it is fun at first, but that gets old fast. Usually at least one of them doesn't want to go and fusses until they are driving away. They get bored and want to play with their friends and be at their house, etc. This used to break my heart, but I learned that it was all part of my H learning that life wasn't easy.
Now I can get so much done, I can visit with friends, and do things that I enjoy. In fact, when (staying positive here!) my H returns, I will have to continue to have my time or I will go bonkers!
Make a list of all of those projects you have been meaning to do - it is amazing what a little nervous energy can accomplish!
Hang in there - I am praying for you and yours!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
