Whenever you feel this strongly, it would probably be a good idea to find a distraction to keep you busy. Yes, it is hard b/c you're dealing with love....not some high school crush. It is serious stuff. I do believe in the majority of the advice given on the board. I do believe that detaching is the way to go when you are the LBS.
I was almost a WAW. The more my H pursued, the more I wanted to get away from him. I'll bet your H felt the same way. But when he realized you were no longer being available to him.....human nature kicked in and he wanted to see if he could pull you near again. Doesn't mean he's ready to have you back as his wife,but he just wants to see if he still has some "power" over you. Know what I mean? Sure you do.
If you don't make him work for this, then the past couple of months have been all for nothing. He wanted OW. That is a slap in the face to you. Don't cave in the first time he calls and gives the pitiful b.s. about "he didn't mean not to ever talk to each other". Oh yeah? What did he mean? Did he want OW for all the sexy, going out--fun stuff.....and keep you for the boring, not-so-fun stuff....like housework, cooking, paying bills, grocery shopping, etc.?
Sorry if I sound too harsh, but as a WAW I can tell you that they (WAS) need to respect the LBS. He won't respect or desire you if you make this too easy for him. Why would he respect a woman who would compromise with what he's doing? (Is he still with OW?)
If he thinks you are not so easy, then he'll probably get more interested.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
