screwing up big time and need help

[newmama]

Hi Elvencat! You know, your first night in your new house is bound to be hard. Probably the first month will be.

Wow- the OW just fits a typical "damsel in distress" type of sitch and your H gets to be the Knight In Shining Armor. She will always be stirring up drama to get him to save her and then she will become controlling over him and demanding, and then when he tries to break away she will throw dramatic "I will kill myself" fits. Yeah- the OW in my sitch has a lot in common with her! So again, you are SOOOOO smart to start GAL and worrying about yourself, making improvements and giving him the taste of divorced life right away.

Just a little bit ago, she called and told him her 10 yr old dog had to be put down for a severe untreatable medical condition and how upset she is. He ran out the door after saying he'd see my tonight.

I am sure this would be upsetting but don't you see how she uses it to get him to go over there? She will find many many things like this....things where normally you would feel frustrated or sad but just deal with it on your own suddenly will become so overwhelming to her and she will "need" your H to comfort her! %$#@&*!

Just keep the faith, Elvencat...unfortunately I think your H needs to learn that when you make your bed, you have to lie in it and that when you play with fire, you get burned, and that he won't be able to "fix" her....who knows how long this can take but he will not want her in the end! But at least you are applying pressure now to help shorten the A. (((HUGS!))) Stay strong!