You are right if it happened once it can happen again.

FT was good about this too now that I think about it. W started trying to convince him that OM was 'just a friend', I was controlling..blah blah

He just looked her in the eye and said something like 'that's his right, he's your husband' but in a much smoother way than that.

M 40
W 39
D 4
M 5 years
Bomb dropped 08/09
In house separation