Sorry DLS, but if you are suggesting that OIN spend time with attractive women in some desperate ploy to make his wife jealous I think that's not the best course of action... This would very likley trigger his wife to give up on the marriage entirely and frolic about herself...
OIN I think DBing is a LOT simpler to do when there isn't a third party attacking your marriage.
Once we can be SURE beyond a shadow of a doubt that the OM is GONE... from her workplace AND her imagination your wife will be a LOT more welcoming of reconcilliation if YOU are an inviting prospect
Her disrespect and dismissive attitude I think is largely thanks to the interference of OM... He's done a LOT of damage here... But he continues to do that until your WIFE is convinced he's gone and she gives up on him.
Allen A,
I am real respectful of your point of view. What I'm talking about is being effective and what yields results. The manner in which I am describing this is not a desperate ploy at all. Its a well managed situation, where OIN gets the type of attention that he should be getting from his wife. Over time, if that is going to be his wife she will fill that hole. Right now, in the interactions he is going through it is stripping him of his masculinity over time.
He's giving her a high quality interaction and alot of time, but he's not getting much in return. She's getting used to this.
Thats what I don't like. I wasn't prescribing cheating, simply spending time with people who want to spend time with him.
Right now its not his wife, and if he lays back for several weeks ot a month or so maybe she will return.
I don't believe being up as close as he is to her will work. Plus she is getting used to dishing what she is, and still getting like I said a highly focused OIN and alot of his time. She will figure if she gets all that out of him without putting anything out, why should she change anything?
