Script EXACTLY what you are going to say AHEAD of time on paper or on your computer.
Do you have photos of the bite?
Be sure to point out that the bite occurred when your wife was partying with OM and the child was in her care.
Did OM help at all to take the boy to the doctor or anything? If he just sat around the whole time to have sex with your wife SAY THAT.
You want to paint this guy up as a sleaze ball.
Be VERY careful of your own rep right now.. this is like a political campaign and you are running for office.. you need a GOLDEN IMAGE out there right now.
a. No smoking b. No drinking c. Dress well d. No losing temper in public
etc
Be a stirling image of adulthood while assassinating OM's character calmly with fact after fact...
Do NOT TEXT people.. talk in person.. go meet them for lunch, etc.. Buy them lunch.. show people you aren't HIDING or AFRAID of this guy and that you have no respect for him...
Paint him out as a creep to everyone you can.
Re those who don't support you :
1. It is crises like these where you learn who your REAL friends are 2. As sandi said - who cares about the people who support what OM is doing... you can DROP them later on when the storm clears, they clearly are NOT reliable in a storm. 3. If you are worried about your public image I would worry about the man attacking your marriage... THAT is more humiliating than you backing down and hiding. OM is humiliating you right NOW.. you think fighting BACK respectfully with FACTS makes you look WORSE? It makes you look like a damn ADULT and a FATHER... Maybe your community hasn't seen any lately so ya, they may find it a bit odd...
Educate them what a MAN LOOKS LIKE in the community.. OM is clearly NOT fitting the bill...
Where do you live? I get the impression this is a very small town... that's good if it is...
Gossip spreads much more quickly in smaller towns and reputation is a lot more important...
