How do you even start to peice it back together once you do break up the affair?
It can be done, and it has been done right here on the board. But for now, you have to deal with what's facing you in the present....and that's her A. As long as she's having an A, there's no hope for a happy M with her.
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What can i expect if she does want to work on the marrige?
The key word here is "want". The problem is not when the WAW "wants" to work on the M.....it is when she doesn't want to. Again, this is in the future and you need to keep your steps in order.
Perhaps you meant what could you expect from her as any hope in working on the M if you exposed?
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How many people will think im an idiot and what should i tell them about what im trying to do?
Will the people that dont support what im doing and think that im crazy ever accept me into their lives again.
I have never seen it work like that. It is usually when the man pretends nothing is happing....or he admits she's in an A but he does nothing to stop it. As for what people with think of you....they usually respect a man for doing what is right in order to save his M. But the important issue is for you to do what "you" believe is right and not worry what other people will think......ESPECIALLY those who don't support you. Why would you care or want them to accept you back into their lives again? If they do not agree with your stand against this A, then you do not need them in your life.
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I think i wll expose the sons dog bite and expose how she was shacked up O/M and she sent son to grandmas so her and O/M could have a little Affair time and the real reason i filed seperation. and the truth is that they were seeing each other prior to that.
Be very certain about your steps in exposing. Do not just test the waters to see what reaction you'll get. Be ready to hit hard and fast and for her to deal with the fallout. Allen & Puppy will give you all the help you need, but you must follow directions carefully and don't go out half-cocked about what you're doing.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
