I think this is my home for the next 6 months...

[glamgirl]

RM if you break it down it makes it easier. So what really are you hanging onto? Sounds like if I give h the motorcycle he will ride with ow on it. Well that may happen if you like it or not.

So let's say he does that, what are you afraid of? He won't come back right now anyway. By hanging onto his stuff and refusing to give to him will only make matters worse and will put more of a wedge between you. Is that what you want?

Decide what you want. Do you want your h back? Are you trying to bring him home? If so, this would NOT be the way.

He needs to see what he truly is running away from. Give him a reason to want to come home. You want to draw him in, not push him further away.

Hope this makes sense. Do not be afraid of what the future may bring. It would not be the end of life if he rode with ow. Yes, you may not like it and it may hurt but you will live and life will go on.

Focus on what you can control, not on what you can't. Focus on the positive like spending time with son and fixing the fish pond. A positive. Don't think of it as manipulation. If you think like that you will lose.

Soul searching might help you. Do things that make you happy and stay positive not dwell on what you have NO control over.

None of this is easy, but the quicker you can let it be the better off you will feel.