My h called my son today and asked son to help with me add salt and other stuff to the fish pond. He told son to tell me he was going to come here with mason to fix our front steps and wants to take motorcycle and bicycle when he comes. Then i realized he is doing helpful things to manipulate me to get what he wants. I never realized what a manipulator he was until the last year. I am having a very hard time letting him take these things. I dont know what to do. If i don't give it he will see it as me being controlling. It just kills me to think of ow riding on his motorcycle. I have done really good the last 10 day detaching I haven't called him. Im afraid if he comes here things arent't going to be good. Please only respond in a kind way or don't respond at all I cannot take anymore heartache. I am so nervous about this motorcycle situation. It will make me feel more abandoned if he takes stuff.
