" I have been doing some thinking and THIS is what I have decided. I have decided that I am not going to live this way anymore. I am filing for divorce."
You are still being weak when you ask them what their intentions are and when you tell them they have a choice to make. That STILL leaves it up to them and makes it still come across as you are just patiently waiting around. Don't do that anymore. It hasn't worked.
It IS NOT only his choice. Never has been. He has had more than enough time. It is time to take the choice out of HIS hands and tell him what choice YOU have made. Makes a total difference in what happens. Be decisive. Don't live this way. It really isn't worth it. Life is too short and waiting around for them to "decide" rarely, if ever works.
Do I have the balls to say it? Yes. Do I mean it right now? Not yet.
Am I detached? More than ever.
I'm close to this, honestly, but not all the way there yet.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
