Sorry Rlay you are going through this. I does take so much out of us and it's hard to think of DBing when they act the way they do. Don't beat yourself up too bad.

As far as giving up that is always your choice. By the looks of your signature you have not been at this long. You have to be committed to the long haul which could be years for your h to come out of the crisis. You will need to buckle your seat belt and get ready for a bumpy road if that is what you choose.

It might be best in the beginning to have very little contact with your h, since most of the contacts turn ugly and are handled with anger and are defensive.

Remember to not take it personallly this is not about you.


Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"