I am getting better with the tears. I find that when he is not here I am at the point that I really don't cry. Its worse when he is here and being horrible. Luckily I am busy this weekend helping a friend who dislocated her kneecap, it will give me something else to think about.
Since I'm an expert at wallpapering now, let me know if you need help with your bathroom!
Saw a lawyer yesterday to have him go over what my H proposed for the divorce. His advice surprisingly was to not fight it, said that my H was being more than generous, and it was better than what I would get if we fought it out in court, since this is a 50-50 state. My H wants to leave me all of the responsibility (house and business), and take any cash we have (drain the bank accounts, sell our few stocks) and go whoop it up with OW. I'm glad I woulnd't have to worry about a place to live or a job, even if the bills would be a struggle for a few months.
I was also surprised that the lawyer said to me "why don't you just let him have the cash and not get divorced? You know that his fling is only going to last a year or so anyway, and when it falls apart he'll want to come back to you. Then at least you wouldn't be divorced and could work on your relationship again." He said that he has seen this situation many times and 'they always come back". I wish I could be as certain, since currently my H told me he's been unhappy now for the past 10 YEARS! I know its the MLC talking, but its still painful to hear.
Me - 38 Husband - 40 MLC! Together 12 years Married 11 years Still the love of my life Forever only lasted 10 years before his MLC and affair
