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[flowmom]

Other than still worrying about the kids. Can't quite get over that stumbling block. D would devastate them. That will be on her.

<nodding> I so get you IDU. The only thing I've figured out about that is:

1. I'm doing what I can to save my M...which isn't much

2. whether or not we D is out of my control

3. I can do my best to mitigate the fallout of D on my children, but there inevitably going to be some pain for them in the short and long term

4. a parent can only protect her children to some extent...beyond that she must be there to support them and help them with tools for coping

I've had to get really clear about the above so that the guilt doesn't eat me alive...I still struggle with feeling that I would sell my soul to prevent this D for my children's sakes.

(((hugs)))