Yes, at my insistence, my L contacted his L, for the umteenth time. All I want to do is put something on paper so that if he doesn't come back I know what to do. If he does, it can always be dissolved. WH keeps telling me I don't need a L because we are still together, just in different cities, and that I should just get over it (and pay my own mortgage, etc).
No, I haven't served him with anything, I am trying NOT to litigate or go to court, or file for D or anything like that. When WH first left (left us in a sold house and got his own place, was dating, etc) I submitted financial statements to my L, so he and WH's L could work out some sort of support for me and the kids. WH is supposed to fill one out too, so that the L's can determine how much support he should give us to live on. WH won't fill his out.
Yes, but it is through an account that he monitors daily, and when I use it he tells me I spend too much money (even though it is a fraction of what it should be).
I can see why you're so frustrated and don't blame you in the least. In my state there is a way through family court where you can go in and get child support amount determined without filing for LS or D. Anything like that available for you?
I have to say that from all the sitches I've read your H's rollercoaster has some of the steepest twists and turns. You are handling things remarkably well for what you have to put up with.
They all seem to be batschitt crazy, just some more than others.
You may not have any choice but to litigate just to protect yourself and the kids. They are so selfish, even going as far as not doing right by their children. Obvious that there's a reason he doesn't want to disclose his financials. Him crying 'poor me' is a bunch of crap. He knows what he should be paying and he's scared you'll do something legal and he'll have no choice.
Remember that if/when he wakes up he will understand why you had to do the things that you did. If he doesn't wake up, well then at least you got what you needed to help raise the kids.
