I have not told you to do this before because you had no leverage before. She didn't care what you thought or if you hurt, because you didn't matter. And you still won't matter, if you don't speak up for yourself. But if she is going to hide from the big bad world in the marriage, then you do matter. Because you have to allow her to do that. It is time to let her know that she might have lost her safe refuge too.
