just catching up on your thread! Thought the email your H sent was polite. Maybe not what you wanted to hear, but it sounds as if he is interested in meeting his D. I agree with NM, and am not sure if I'd send an email. But if you have that burning desire to do so, maybe I would try to omit some of the negative things you write (sorry) as I think the email is a tool fo you to show your H how strong and wonderful and content you are with your own life. Like Gatsby mentions above, if there are things you've already said then I wouldnt repeat them. No point.
I would make the email a bit more upbeat... remember the friendly neighbor who got you pregnant. When i read the email I felt like it was a bit of a downer, and you dont want H to retract at this point... you want him to come forward. My family keeps telling me 'its easier to attract bees to honey than vinegar!" or however that saying goes!
Im sorry, just stating my opinion. I have sent the you did this so now i am doing that email too and im not sure it works. Not that I am protecting your H or any of our H's feelings, but this email would only be reminding him he is a creep (i am sure he already knows that) and not showing your best side.
Best way to be the walk away spouse... is to just do it! You dont need to tell him... this is where you can show your 180!
Maybe just thank him for wanting to see the baby when she is born and respecting your decisions, dont mention that it make take hours, he will figure it out that day. If you really want to reply, make it short, SWEET and non-threatening.
I hope you'll post when the baby is born!!! So exciting!!!
