Almost a year now for us too. That's why I'm doing all of this work on the before and after. I will ask for H's help in some ways, but mostly this work is mine to do. I know I'll have been changed by what has happened, but I refuse to be a victim. If I allow myself to walk around wounded for the rest of my life, instead of doing the work to heal, that would be--in my mind--allowing myself to be a victim.
