Quote: started getting all teary and got a bit mean with Wolfie. I said, "you know, if you hadn't of gotten busted, you would have been gone by now. You would have just left and I wouldn't have known why."
He said that's probably the way things were headed.
I know it was a low-blow. I was insinuting that he had only come back because it was the "right thing to do", saving face because he felt guilty and embarrassed.
You know, his response doesn't mean he just came back to "save face" - it probably means that if he hadn't had to face up to what he was doing, he might never have come out of his fog to realize what he was losing.
I've had the same thought about my H, BTW - if I hadn't snooped and found out about his affair, I would never have understood what was happening, and he would have followed through on his plans to move out - I might never have known. I think the shock of having to face me and the kids was the start of his turning point - and no, he's not here because of guilt.
