OK so I am reporting this because I believe that affairs are addictive relationships and that is what WH has with OW.
I know this to be true. Some are addicted to the quickie experience and some to one person. I believe it is the drama that fires the dopamine overload. Eventually, a tolerance to the high dopamine levels develops, clearing their vision, seeing through the drama to reality. We'd be gazillionaires if we knew what event could trigger the clarity at the same time the tolerance level is reached. I know my H's OW has been creating drama where none exists....(a sign she senses dopamine tolerance?)....it is catching up w/ her tho,(soon i hope).
Your H may be at that point too. Especially if she is pushing for D. (she senses a dopamine tolerance??? D is mega drama causing!!!) He probably liked things the way they were! Time is on our side. Your friend hit a homerun there!
These addictions, (Penny Tupy @ symc. com) wear off in 6mos to 3 years. Drama (secrets, lies, conflict, insecurity, etc) all feed the addiction, and can extend the life of the affair.
Have you read any of Daniel Amen's work? He started researching ADD years ago. He analyzes brain scans and studies the activity of parts of the brain to diagnose and treat ADD. Now he has branched out and studies anxiety, depression, weight loss, and more recently, addiction & infidelity. I saw him recently on Dr. Phil talking about it, but no book on it yet I don't think.
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