I wish my W would do that, without the negative reaction afterwards! I know how you feel - I have been sleeping in a spare bedroom that the cat box is in, so it doesn't always smell like a daisy. We will communicate about just about anything, as long as it doesn't involve REAL emotions. She TXTs me and sends me pics of our kids, etc. But I have been following all the advice and not pursuing. My DB coach expressed how impressed she was by how well I manage tense situations. She also said to keep in perspective the fact that 3 months of emotional separation compared to 7-8 years of M is NOT a long time and to stand strong.
Our kids (both 2) are approaching the age when they will really start to notice that M and D never hug or kiss. They will start to ask questions or say things that will really hit home. I am so madly in love with my children that it hurts sometimes.
I desperately want our family back and I want to live as a happy, loving family. It's frustrating because we basically had that only 4 months ago and now it's been overshadowed.
I can be very patient. I know that the W must be feeling guilt for the way she's acting and giving me no credit for all the ways I have changed. I can only hope my actions make it through...
