Not sore, not swollen, no packed bag and no installed car seat! Hee hee. I have the car seat in the car in the box, but I'm waiting 'till someone can help me put it in. Hopefully this weekend. Hospital bag is also planned for this weekend. Although I imagine I could pack it in early delivery between contractions. Right? (I hope!)
School is done June 4th. I will be coming in to meetings until delivery day. I love work, so it's no problem at all. I prefer it to sitting at home!
Ha, Piano, I'm glad it made you laugh. It made me chuckle too.
I just want to discuss: - her name - when he will see her after the birth - seems to me there's one other thing i had in that email draft on page 23 of my thread. . . can't remember
But the name is the one that is the most important to me before birth.
So yeah, it is pretty huge that he is avoiding it so much, right guys? My WH is WAY different from all of yours now because he's still trying to live like he's not having a baby! Yes, he is still in therapy. So I know that the therapist has GOT to be pushing him on it. I mean, IC diagnosed him with adjustment disorder for it, so it can't be ignored in their sessions!
Does he think he's not supposed to be talking about it? Well, he doesn't have that excuse anymore because this past week I mentioned reading Goodnight Moon to her, and that didn't prompt anything. Is he being stubborn/playing a game? I don't think so. I think that it is just SO hard for him to come to grips about this fatherhood thing. I think he's also very ashamed. What shames him he avoids.
I want him to bring it up because it is such a psychological issue for him. I fear pushing him away just with baby talk. I'd like for him to approach me on his own, and then I'd gladly talk about the baby! At this point, I still don't know what to expect from him except the worst. Because he is still escaping so much. I don't actually think reality will hit him until he sees her. That's why it's so important to me that he does see her asap.
So, my steps were 1) Send a friendly email, 2) Reply more friendly a couple more times, 3) Mention the baby, 4) Talk to his sister, 5) Wait, and then 6) Bring it up myself.
