Good job staying objective, Whatnow, and just observing your H's behavior! Yes I did forget that he wanted OW to move in with you. Have you seen Big Love? WH and I used to watch it. He said "wow,that is every man's fantasy!" and then the summer before I found out about his A, he had said "maybe OW could move in with us so we could help her and her little girl"

My point is that your H isn't on another planet by himself...I bet if my H has said that kind of stuff and your H has then many others have too! (just sharing-not saying it is ok!)

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Maybe he is checking to see if we are ok enough to handle a D.

Please explain your theory on this possibility....how would this make sense?

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004