Have you ever said these things before, P, to his face? If you already have, then I don't think you should say them again. If you haven't, I agree they should be said. I just don't know if right now exactly is the best time.
- You forfeited parental rights - Your self-serving behavior - Your unilateral decision - I (P) will be fine - I won't stand in the way between you and baby - Wait in the lobby - After-birth procedures to explain delay - You'll meet her when we're ready
That's your message, very condensed, I think.
What exactly do you want as a response from him? And I understand if you don't care what he thinks today, but what would you think in two months if he was still in town?
I don't think he needs to know about the after-birth procedures or about why you'll delay the first meeting. It will just happen that way. Many things in his life between you and he and the baby will just happen without him knowing about it beforehand.
I think the other things should be said later. After the financial talk. After the initial meeting with the baby. I think you guys should have some peace around these events.
