If you change yourself..then what is left to do? The book says by changing yuorself, you will see a change in them, too..but that isn't happening. If someone says they don't love you anymoer and havnet for years...you can't make someone feel something that isn't there. He doesnt even want to try, refuses to see a counsler..said I am beating a dead horse. But, I still don't want to give up.
marie - this is the exact question i asked myself several times when my W wouldn't even look at me....then i found out about her A and busted it...we are both trying harder than we have in a very long time, and yes 5 months now since she told me she didn't love me and wanted out, she tells me she loves me.
not saying this is going to work out for you or not - either way the changes you make are for YOU. you need to continue improving yourself for YOU and realize that you are going to be a better person no matter the outcome.
my opinion until the A is busted your changes may continue to go unnoticed (also probably partly whey they are not noticed now), but don't stop!
have you considered exposing his A?
Gman
Last edited by gman; 05/21/1006:15 PM.
M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
