Shiny and J: yes, the Mrs. Hyde thing is a big deal. I know there is some substance to his fears. His first wife was a friend of mine. Dispite the pill, she got pregnant. I don't think they would have lasted more than a few months if it weren't for that. They got married to take care of the medical and financial aspects (the military does well in that regard). She never loved the man, though and resented the burden as she was very young and just wanted to party. She settled for Wolfie and did critisize and put him down a lot.
Second wife was someone he'd dated for a little while after his divorce. He got stationed halfway across the country and things ended with her. A few months later, she called him and said she was coming out to visit. He told her not to, but she showed up anyway. She was supposably on birth control, but called 3 months later and said she was pregnant. He quit the school he was going to and returned to marry her. She really was a psycho-B. Their marraige ended shortly after he took her keys away from her when she was drunk and she went nuts. Somebody called the cops and she ended up in jail for the weekend for domestic violence. She has gone on to have two more kids with other men--trying to find someone to take care of her (or at least send child-support).
I can understand where some of his fears come from, but I remind him that he got two wonderful sons out of the whole deal. ___________________________________________________________
Yesterday he was telling me about a guy he has been taking care of while his family got some respite. The guy was in Viet Nam and went nuts--paranoid schizophrenic (?) so he's still stuck back there in many ways. Wolfie told the guy that he was a vet too, and the guy said that Wolfie obviously made it out a lot better than HE did.
Wolfie told him that I might say different and told him that he suffers from PTSD and has a great deal of difficulty with committing to anything for very long and with intimacy. He said that he'd had several melt-downs and in the last one, he nearly lost me and our family. Viet Nam...the gift that keeps on giving...YUK.
