So is it to late for signing up for Divorce busters, should I just let him go.
Here's what took me a while to 'get':
If you love him unconditionally you have to let him go.
That doesn't mean it's too late to 'divorce bust' ... it just means that this is what HE needs and any attempt to control or manipulate the situation is just that, control and manipulation. By not agreeing you are also not validating his feeling that he needs to do this for himself.
Girlfriend, it is time to turn it inwards and GAL! You can not control him or his decisions or his feelings. You can, however, control you and your life and your choices. Divorce Busting is about personal growth and reflection, becoming the best person you can, for YOURSELF! It may, or may not, save your marriage ... but right now you need to save yourself.
I've discovered that my H is on a journey and I can't speed it up or help him out - but I can slow it down! I need to take care of ME ... and so do you! You need for you to be strong and so do your children! Read through my sitch if you haven't already, and I think you'll see the progression ... pay particular attention to the advice I'm getting from the vets ... like everyone says, it's counter-intuitive but it works!
This is hard! No one said it would be easy, but it sounds to me like you have some reading to do, you've got a ways to go yet before you 'get it', and the fastest way there is through reading and introspection. You are in the right place ... keep reading ...
Breathe .... (((hm12)))
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
