It seems kind of odd to just "pick back up" as if months and months of lying didn't happen.
If that is what you are asking, then you really won't get an answer you like.
There will never be a time when you just "pick back up"
Whether or not you admit it, your old marriage is gone, dead, over.
Anything that happens down the road will be a new relationship.
If that is with your current spouse, then that is great.
Piecing is hard work, probably HARDER than standing. Tough, and I mean tough love will come into play, and boundaries will be set and enforced. Most of the things you don't do as a stander , are necessary now.
IF.....You look inside, and do YOUR work....
When that time comes.....you will find that the answers you seek, will not matter as much.
Mostly because your questions will have changed.
Trust is a hard thing to rebuild....with anyone, let alone the person you trusted with EVERYTHING previously...
Maybe that is why it is imperative to find YOU first.
GREAT post Mach... just getting caught up on this thread and came across this wisdom... is it acceptable to post whistles or does Puppy have that copyrighted?
