WAH and LBW separated and dark

[AJM]

Ha. You have a sense of humor in there. I can sense it

Of course he feels pain. Why do you think he is doing what he is doing? Because it's fun??? There is nothing fun about divorce for anyone. Ever talked to a lawyer and LIKED it? I mean really. Duh. <sounding like one of my teens>

Am I speaking from experience? Oh YES I AM. On all counts. The deep breaths. The trying really hard to not to run away. (did you know that in divorce there is almost always a very strong desire for one of the spouses to run far away at some point in the process? - normal..)

One tactic I learned is to stop, breathe, and visualize myself happy. And also to look around at the great things going on in my life instead of being consumed and highly focused on how I was being done wrong. As I started getting better at that, I noticed that my outlook on things was also changing. Basically, what I had been doing wasn't working. Am I "there" yet? Nope. But that's not likely to happen overnight. It'll take time. And effort. Just like forgiveness does. But it's not time for forgiveness yet for you. You have much work to continue doing prior to that. But I do recommend you start now since it does take a while and a lot of effort.
Take a few days to get away. But be away. Try not to talk too much about this stuff. If you do, try to limit it and don't let others tell you what to do. You have to live with your choices, not them. Be sure you can look back and not regret the choices you made.

Keep in mind he will do all kinds of nasty things. The money? He'll try to be as selfish as he can and likely use anger to help him feel justified. It's normal for humans to do that, right? Don't be surprised by it.

"Forgiveness is a gift we first give ourselves" - Suzanne Sommers (of all people

AJ