"I am very glad you agree about sharing our family names for our child. About the birth and meeting the baby, I would like to meet her within minutes (or within the hour) after the birth if possible. I do not wish to be present in the birthing room, but I'd like to be waiting at the hospital.. The last thing I want is to be a source of stress for you and the baby for that important moment, so I will respect your decision. I look forward to meet the little girl, hopefully as soon as she arrives to this world.I hope the birth will go well, easy and peacefully, and the way you want it."
I know he is not demanding as such, but he keeps pushing his wishes nonetheless. I feel like he's got NO compassion for me at all.. I am a sideline to his obsession about meeeting the baby "straight away".
Has he no idea that "within minutes" of a birth, a placenta has to be birthed, the baby has to latch to the breast, and connect with mum?
He is uneducated. Naive. And selfish...
I need to set another boundary (by email) so he understands the above.
And I think I will have to explain him that by walking out on us at 8 weeks pregnant & telling me he wont' coparent, he has forfieted those rights.
Lordy, this one is going to be tricky to write. I am sorry to be dependent on you all, but I am so close to birth and my brain is out the window.
