Perhaps it's time to tell her how disappointed you are in her, that she would throw away your love and your marriage the way she did to chase a married man! And you don't know how you could recover from the way she has been lying to you and deliberately saying hurtful things to you. Perhaps it is for the best for her to move out. You are just not sure about anything having to do with her right now.
I agree with Lotus.
I think the time is now.
I know you are afraid to let her go for fear of her running to someone else, but, she truly needs to see what life would be like without you taking 'care' of her....you really do have a father/daughter relationship....did you notice she went to her father when she didn't get what she wanted from you?
Oin, you have shown her how hard you have worked at changing yourself and trying to save M.....what has she done?
(((HUGS)))
M55 H55 my D31 H D30 1st met her when she was 25 M 22yrs...2nd for me, 1st for H OW 2005 mother of H daughter, came back to introduce D 1bomb 6/05 2bomb 7/08 3bomb 2/10 moved up north