Not much time right now, just reminding you I continue to remember you and your family in my prayers.
One more thing, as OTMT pointed out, don't be so hard on yourself. Allow yourself some time to grieve. It's nothing to be ashamed of. You need to get it out. After the grief, and the time varies with everyone, you will find the strength and resolve that you need. That's a promise.
I know that I have not adquately responed to your very thoughtful post, but I do really appreciate what you said and how you said it.
Thank you. P.S. Keep taking care of yourself and don't give up on your sitch. You have a good heart, and you will make it through the difficult times you are facing too.
Don't give up on you and your family!
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Thank you so much for continuing to follow my thread and give me support. I am doing my best to be okay, but I have never felt pain and hurt like this ever.
You and your family are in my prayers too.
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Going over the divorce papers is brutal. She is brutal said an attorney I spoke with. He said I definitely need an attorney. I agree. I have been emotional again today.
OMW is upset. This situation is just out of control. I cannont believe all the crap that is being done to me by her. Unbelievable. She has some serious issues.
I just want this over.
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Going over the divorce papers is brutal. She is brutal said an attorney I spoke with. He said I definitely need an attorney. I agree. I have been emotional again today.
OMW is upset. This situation is just out of control. I cannot believe all the crap that is being done to me by her. Unbelievable. She has some serious issues.
I just want this over.
Hang in there, buddy.
I'm not in the position that you are in, but I do think I know at least some of the pain that you're going through. It's still hard to believe that someone you gave your heart and soul to could do something like this with, seemingly, no thought of the family as a whole. You will never understand because it makes no sense.
She has put you in a position that requires tough action on your part. Do what you need to do with no reservations. Protect yourself and those wonderful kids.
Ask yourself this: If she changed her mind tomorrow, would I take her back? If you are honest with yourself, I will bet that your answer would be different today than it was a couple of week ago. I know you have been through a lot this week, but that inner strength and survival mechanism is kicking in. You will find strength that you never knew you had, believe me. You and your kids will be okay.
It has been a very difficult week. I am glad it is almost over for this week.
I do not believe I would ever take her back at this point. I do not think I could ever trust her again. She is not a person I want to be with. She has other guys asking her out. She has left herself open to date while still married even if she has filed for divorce. She was suppose to be committed to me and our marriage for life. I think divorce is not dealing with problems and issues in the marriage. It seems to be an easy way to not deal problems. I just do not want to be in a marriage with someone that has so little regard for me.
My kids are my priority. I think if we stayed together would she be doing it to put herself in a better position to gain custody of the kids because I think she does not have a very good case at the moment.
I am going to have to find my strength to move forward. I do not want to go through this again. I would wonder if it she would do this to me again. I just don't trust her!
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It has been a very difficult week. I am glad it is almost over for this week.
I do not believe I would ever take her back at this point. I do not think I could ever trust her again. She is not a person I want to be with. She has other guys asking her out. She has left herself open to date while still married even if she has filed for divorce. She was suppose to be committed to me and our marriage for life. I think divorce is not dealing with problems and issues in the marriage. It seems to be an easy way to not deal problems. I just do not want to be in a marriage with someone that has so little regard for me.
My kids are my priority. I think if we stayed together would she be doing it to put herself in a better position to gain custody of the kids because I think she does not have a very good case at the moment.
I am going to have to find my strength to move forward. I do not want to go through this again. I would wonder if it she would do this to me again. I just don't trust her!
