When he acts like this to you, are you staying consistent?
Does he have any possible ulterior motive regarding money or needing to butter you up for something?
Yes, I am being consistent. Hard to keep my mouth shut, but I'm doing it!
You probably don't remember but he wanted me to be friends w/ OW. He wanted her to move in b/c 'she liked to cook and clean and would be a good influence on the kids'! (with just a little kissing and hand-holding) He brought this up many times over the last year and a half....Barf... Thus my concern over cake-eating.
Since DD16's prom (4/24) he has been in a lot of contact. That was our 1st conversation in 4 months. right after that, OW pitched a fit about him seeing me and not telling her, exposing her deceptions about 'hearing things' from me via a friend. I no longer talk to. Maybe it woke H up to who she really is a bit. Dunno....
Thanks for the reminder Lostforwords...
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Dim is more the world of parents. With kids in the home, going completely dark is extremely hard. So just go with the conversation, listen, validate, and for question aimed at you...be vague or short in reply. That greats a fog of curiosity around yourself.
Realize the peskiness will get worse. He is testing the waters with no real want to jump back in.
The kids are teenagers so it wasn't hard to go dark for awhile.(It saved me! even with all of his "I miss you" emails.) Since Feb tho, Ds13 has had one health issue after another, that I have had to talk w/ H about.
Thanks you guys. It really helps to have an educated, objective, perspective. I am too close to see clearly sometimes.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
