because he's hurting you, this is normal to feel. I remember when I first had that feeling that it was very unsettling to me. Your H is way ahead of you on the detachment curve, you need to catch up and get ahead of him.
Think of Maslow when you are taking care of your self. I agree with Forrest about the sleep and eating. I had to manage my energy to get thru my sitch.
My wife filed for D and left the house. It crushed me emotionally, literally put me on the floor with grief. It wasn't productive so I changed what I was doing. I promised myself I would come out on the other side a better man. Two mantras I used were, "I can handle it" and "strength and honor."
I hated the legal side of the D. I let my L know that my goal was to stay married but that I wouldn't get in her way of doing her job. The L is your advocate for your financial well being. Hire a great one.
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everyone is asking me why i want to go back to someone like this. this is why i am hesitant to "do the work".
The "work" is for yourself. The work kills the anxiety. The work is the journey, the work is the reward to yourself, the work is a gift to cherish, the work is all about you. You can handle it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
