Confused and looking for advice

[hockeymom12]

This is what I came into work to, I am so devastated.

I am e-mailing you with something that you will find very difficult. I went to see my lawyer to start the Separation proceedings, on Tuesday. I would have preferred to discuss this in person with you, however with our latest interaction on Saturday; I believe it would not be in either of our best interests to discuss this that way. Of recent I have been very frustrated about my visitation with the kids, the house sale and our finances. I understand that this is very hurtful topic for you, as well as myself and I am sure you think I am moving too fast on this. However, from our conversation on Saturday I realized certain things will never happen for me if I do not start in this direction. If I am ever going to purchase a house or rent in St.Adolphe, so S10 can attend school there, I have to get things in place that are fair to both of us. I realize that you are not in as much of a rush to sell the house, because you do not have a place to move to or your new home is not ready till October. But I do not want to live with family for the next year and not be able to have a home ( rent or buy )that D15 or S10 can stay with me at.

I would like to be as fair and understanding as possible. I would like to have a Separation Agreement drafted up between you, me and our lawyers. I believe this would be less confrontational of the two options we have and be the less of a financial hit. If you could have a lawyer within the next couple of weeks so that we can set up a meeting time.

My lawyer advised me to discuss with you a time of separation. I would like to suggest that it be December 31, 2009 as this would make more sense during the tax filing time. However it can be the day that I moved out as well.

In no way is this a retaliation attempt to hurt you or to cause you more stress for the weekend, but I feel that I need to move forward. I am hoping that with this we can come to an understanding on a price for the house to hasten the sale, whether it is the options I proposed earlier or just reducing the price. An understanding and dates we share custody of the kids. As well as our finances.