OK - one thing is for certain...you do not tell the children any of this adult business. You don't score that way. You do what a parent does and that is to protect children. This is not info they need. That's one thing.
The other thing is to protect yourself right now. Bank accts - get them in order. Get your money, any auto deposits from your job into another acct in your name only.
Do not talk with her about this right now until you can get your thoughts together and your emotions in as much check as you can possibly must at a horrible moment like this.
MI to W: "Right now, there is only one thing I'm willing to talk about and that is when you will be coming to pick up your things. You have a week to make your arrangements to move out of the family home. If you can't manage it in a week, I'll pack it up and store it in the garage for you."
MI, you will not live in an open marriage. This is a non-negotiable boundary. Does that mean you won't reconcile with her? No. It just means that while she is spending the night with another man, she will not be living with you. Period. If she wants to move home, she will have to have to completely drop OM, be completely transparent about that and get counseling with you. If she is not willing to do that, then she doesn't want to be married to MI.
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Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
