help with a plan

[pigskin]

I have proof on two occasions that they were somewhere outside of school together. I walked in on them at a bar when this all started. I recently found out of another at her sister's b'day party. She told me I wasn't invited and her brother told me he was there. Her brothers and sisters ripped her a new one. Of course, she swore they were only friends. The brothers don't believe her and haven't supported her. Her sisters, not so sure.

My MIL told me a few weeks ago that W and OM went to a concert near MIL's house and asked if they could stop by. I think MIL wasn't totally comfortable with it, and said "since FIL isn't home, wouldn't you rather come by when both of us are here?"

The fact that my W would even think about bringing the OM to my in-laws home infuriated me. It infuriated me even more to think that my in-laws would even consider allowing that given the state we are in. But I don't know what my MIL was thinking in how she handled the situation. She feels my W is not well, so she is likely just rolling with the insanity to try not to make matters worse. She loves me to death and is very upset with what is going on, but she keeps out of it, as she should.

I think introducing the OM around to friends and family is even more disrespectful than the affair in the first place...