2 weeks left to DB

[newmama]

Sorry for not explaining myself a little more clearly but I meant that I should have stuck to the parenting plan based on the legal recommendations laid out by the county where we would divorce. The recommendation was that the maximum time of the father to visit a newborn was something like 2 days per week for 2 hours. I might be off by a day or an hour. But this time increased as the baby grows older. I also think the court assumed the father might take the baby out of the home.

Now since WH was seeing S in our house, and I was there, I let him visit for longer periods and more frequently.

I could have been strict and stuck to the legal recommendations. Possibly, WH could have seen that he wouldn't get to see S as often and it could have tore him up. He could have realized that he was giving up more than just our marriage by being with OW.

And now that I know (as you just heard from the psych) that no serious damage to bonding would occur if WH didn't see S very often during the first few months- or YEAR- of his life, I would have should have etc etc done it differently!!!

Now this is all speculation of course! Is this a little better of an explanation?