W woke up this morning. We did our separate thing. I hung out in the backyard with the dog. W came outside and started to fool around with the dog. Then W and I shot the basket ball around. W brought up a negative comment OMW said over the phone yesterday and I said nothing in return.
After a little bit W went into the house. I walked in shortly after and said "It is a beautiful day I think I will take the dog and do something."
A little while later W said to be "DO you want to take the dog somewhere or would you rather go to the gun range and after we can do a little shopping" I said "that is up to you" W decided she wanted to go to the gun range and do some shooting then go shopping after.
We went shooting and had a pretty good time. After we stopped and had some lunch. W seemed withdrawn and a little cold at times. After we ate we stopped at a couple stores. W wanted to buy patio furniture for the back deck and we ended up doing so.
There were times where W spoke future tense...
On the way home W questioned me about a phone call I was not honest about....
We get home and start to assemble the patio furniture and I came out and told her the truth and she said she knew I was lying... This female "friend" of hers from work turns out to be less of help then I thought.
She was texting W and W started to question me on things, I asked her if I could see her text messages, W said "I am reading it to you word for word" I then replied "I hand my phone over to you and let you read all my messages and go through my logs and you cant do the same?"
Then W got upset and handed the phone over to me. W brought up the situation and how she feels the whole thing was blown out of proportion. Then W spoke about how her fathers pep talk is to "F them all" and I am sure it included me. W then says "Life goes on"
I said (and probably should not had) "I never thought I would ever be in such a situation. I tired of it all, you created this mess and I want not part of it." she said "The whole thing is a mess, people just think things that are not true and make a big deal about it."
I let it go and said nothing more.
We finished assembling the patio set. W asked what time I had to be at work tonight and then said "I wanted to play the new game we game we got" then said jokingly "I'll let you know how it is"
W then started to play the game. I got ready for work, said "bye" and left.
After I left for work, W started to do google searched for "I don't know how to love him lyrics" and "he broke my heart"
Then W started to read content on the whole "broken heart" thing and started to take online surveys....here are some sites she went to
Maybe I was too friendly with W today. I just went with the flow and validated. looking back maybe I was too soft, I am not sure. but the above links I am sure are intended for OM
Where do I go from here after the OK day we had?
She's going to grieve over the OM. I think today went ok, but the role you sat in today, is not one I think you want to stay in. I think you may have to evaluate this. It might not be good for her to see you in this light for long, because it may cancel your chance to be in your proper role. She will get over it over time, I say do some things you like and lay back off your wife. You can let her know where your going occasionally and she can invite herself along. Outside of that let her get over her stuff.
