There's also the factor of the woman before me. he was heavily involved with a woman before me and intended on marrying her. She was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. They chose mutually to end their romantic relationship. Then he met me, fell in love with me, got a job out of state and then proposed. She hadn't died yet. She died shortly after our engagement. He's telling me now that he feels like he's cheating on her when he's intimate with me so that is why he wasn't interested in having sex with me. But he still had manly needs so he found the OW with whom he didn't feel like he was cheating on the dead one. Weird, cause he's cheating on me.
When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.
