OK, I get the gist that your list was "tongue-in-cheek."
... but just in case, a combination of all of the above could very well be looked upon as controlling behavior.
Now that you have let him know what you want, it has to be his choice to follow thru for the letter to really mean anything for either of you ... to be a true love letter it needs to be of his own free will.
Now with that said, if you want to give him a hint on what tone you like him to set, leave out your favorite of those tattered edged letters you treasure so where it looks like you have just read it and left it after being distracted by something else.
