Thanks G for the contract advice. A great help! Don't be sorry about your financial know-how. It's a great skill & one I have to really improve on!
Ok, so I think it's more simple that I was imagining and agree it's smart, not conclusive of anything. That will come later when I officially take on separated status before the State.

What I want for the birth? I would have been happy at this stage to have him there because I feel detached and strong. But that's not his wish. So I am running with what has been planned all along - present will be me, mum and my midwife. I am not disappointed with this lineup anymore. They truly, literally are my support team. smile Then I'd be happy for him to be out in the waiting room (alone) and invite him in when I am ready. That could be hours later! Too bad for him!