Yes, I definitely think the miscarriage had something to do with it. Sorry to say. Sad that that happned for you this year on top of this. Regardless of his feelings about the miscarriage, sounds like he is on a flight from children. Read Flowmom's thread and think carefully about DBing a man who can't handle the responsibility of children if you think you want them soon.
Do you want to get deserted with a two-year old in a few years? sorry to sound so blunt, but there seems to be a lot of depressed, avoidant Hs in this world whose spouses are now (with children) on this board.
Wise words from rr as usual. I want to echo this: you do not want to have children with a depressed, avoidant H. Try to imagine sharing the biggest responsibility of your entire life with someone who doesn't love you and is even bitter towards you .
Flowmom and rr22--you are right, I do need to think well about this. But I love him and I still hope that if he gets out of this depression we could work together for a better marriage. (Ha, does this sound trite? I bet! But I feel this way right now).
I think I will not focus on the child thing right now (although my biological clock is ticking) and will go with the flow. See what happens by next year. Well, the go with the flow is easier said than done.... I am taking lessons from you, flowmom, on how to detach
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I am taking lessons from you, flowmom, on how to detach 
