Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Had my IC appt. today. Told him that I felt like giving up lately. Said that I see nothing from W that would indicate any reason I should continue to be patient and try. He understood but said that I should give it more time.

He is very pro marriage. Maybe too much. I say that because some of the things he suggests are pursuing. Not too much though, he knows not to push her away, but some things he suggests I don't think I should do right now.

For example, he said that I should respond to her email and keep it to the point just like everyone here has suggested. He's not even too concerned about asking her questions about the house. He thinks at the end of the email I should just say, "miss you". Wow, I don't know about that one. His reason is because he thinks if my W continues to just email me about business stuff, she is removing any emotion. He said by injecting little things at the end of my emails like, "miss you" or "thinking of you", it puts some emotion back in...gives her something to think about. I understand what he's trying to say. I'm just not sure that now is the right time for something like that. I also told him about our anniversary next week. He said he wouldn't send a card (which I wasn't going to do) but he said to maybe send her a text just saying, "thinking of you today"...don't even sign it. He said she will know what it means. I don't know about that one either.

I think his point was that if I don't inject some emotion back into this, my W might just continue to be civil about the business stuff until it's time for D. He also feels like I shouldn't wait for days at a time to respond to W's emails. He said if I want some time to think about what I want to say to her, that I just tell her that she has some good questions and I need a couple days to think about it. His reason for me at least getting back to W the same day is because he said she might think it's the same old mza8 and I'm not getting back to her because I'm upset. Ok, that makes sense to me, don't know that I will do it but it makes sense.

All sorts of conflicting, confusing information. Anyway, when I get back this evening I'll respond to her email. Don't think I will be including any "miss you" in this email.