WAW still around, DBing starting to work

[gutwrenching]

Update:
Not sure where we are at right now. Lots of stress this weekend with her surgery and some sudden uncertainty on where we were moving this summer, so opted not to bring up Retrouvaille.

Social event this weekend didn't go bad, but not good. Some things came out that really annoyed me but that helped me go distant again. Sunday I was pursued some during day but didnt get sucked back in...stayed distant. Sunday night, back to old WAW routines.

Monday W has surgery and I have decided to do what needs to be done, be a supporting H. Will go back to DB and focuing on what works after we get thru this. Right now, I'm just taking care of W and kids and being supportive, considerate, compassionate. W has been very appreciative...in actions and words...being much more affectionate, many thank yous, comments of not to take anything negative she says personally because she is in pain...

Only time will tell if this is a result of feeling guilty because I am doing so much or she is actually trying again.

My expectations are low. I don't expect to know if we have any progress for a while. If nothing else, when she is back on her feet, I can detach go distant and she will certainly see what she will be missing/lose...