Sorry to hear that D10 is sick. I know that is never fun.
So what did you think of meeting him in a public place? That way with lots of people around he may demure and not explode. I wish he was out of your hair but don't quite know how that will come about as long as money is his primary motivating factor.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Well, I didn't email him back re: meeting. I dropped off the kids tonight and he gave me a replacement check. So..I have to give him credit for that. He said try not to lose this one, and I laughed and said I'll try. A relief.
I emailed him tonight re: summer camps for D10 in June. Logistically, it'll be hard to do that, with my work hours now, but if he'll agree, I'll try to do my best to make that work out. D10 wants to go to theatre, art camp, and VBS, and I hope that'll work out. We'll see.
D10 told me at the psych appt. Friday (I was going to go but took off too much time with her sick Thursday and eye dr. Monday). It sounds like they are planning to cut down her meds this summer. I'm ok with trying, but if her meltdowns/tantrums become a big problem, then I will fight that. D10 is worried about having meltdowns in front of her friends. I tried to reassure her it'll be ok.
Well, D10 is sick again-was throwing up all night since midnight. Luckily the dr. fit her in today and she has strep throat. I had to take off today again. I now have no sick leave and about 3 days of "vacation" leave. My boss was saying I should have at least a week's worth, but not working out that way. I told X he needs to watch her tomorrow (I had to miss a day last week when she was sick too). I made the mistake of talking to him on the phone and he said since he was doing the ot/speech appts. every week prob. about 8 hours of leave he's taken this month, and he didn't take it for the prior 10 years so he has months and months saved up, and I've already taken off 16 hours this past week, and maybe another 8 hours tomorrow! He's such a *$#@! He knows I'm on probation and I've told him I could lose my job too. I personally think he would enjoy that, but believe me I would be going back to court to appeal my alimony being lowered halfway (due to my current job). Esp. if his refusing to do his share of sick leave causes that to happen....
I am sorry Karen. I am sure that is stressful. When is school done? I won't leave the girls home alone yet when they are sick but the boys seem to manage fine. I wish there was some way to help.
Do you know anyone from the church who might be able to come be with her? I know you hate to ask but lots of time there are people just wanting to feel useful and they just are waiting to be asked.
hugs to you and the kids, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
He just sent me a 2 page letter asking me how I have the nerve to ask him to take care of D10 tomorrow and I need to step up to my responsibility as a parent. I did email back and say I'm using twice the sick leave of him. He went over everything he's mad about me; making S16 sound bad at the d hearing (yeah, he's seriously autistic), and about how we brought up he wouldn't take D10 to the Dr. when she had bronchitis after several days, as I'd asked him several times during my training period at work. Guess it hurts to hear the truth about yourself.
Yep, don't know why I bother to deal with him. I won't anymore (Remind me if I forget)!!! He just emailed another nasty one about how I had the nerve to ask for primary custody when I can't handle 2 days a week (he means during the school week). Yeah, crazy me hoping he'd do 1/3 of the sick leave time for D10 this month. Said how I can't take responsibility, and I need to start being a parent. I won't email back. He's just a total dbag. BTW, he somewhat agreed to letting D10 go to summer camp in June if I pay for it and do all the driving. I need to watch the kids also the 10 days he's on vacation with OW. He had his girlfriend type up a 2 page email telling me when I'd have the kids in June and July, different days every week, so hard to keep it all straight. He and OW are perfect for each other...
Don't let him fluster you, Karen. Like has been said before, he's a total douchebag. And you gave him the chance (yet again) to act like a decent human being, which he again failed miserably at. Don't knock yourself too hard for trying.
Some people just don't really grasp how extremely painful and difficult it is to have to deal with an insanely hostile former spouse. We could only wish that we'd have a post-D relationship like some do, that was free of so much acrimony and warfare, let alone one that is cordial or friendly. They just don't get it. But it is what it is, and we have to adapt to a set of circumstances that go way, way beyond what is right.
