WAH and LBW separated and dark

[AJM]

DFM, I think what you are seeing in yourself is normal. Anger? Check. Compassion? Check. Change in compassion to anger? Check.

When your relationship dies, you go through all of that. Am I saying it's over? No. But for now yes it is. And you didn't bring it. That anger is a good thing, but don't let it get out of control. Don't unleash it on people or places it does not belong. Learn better ways of dealing with your anger. Something more productive such as exercise, laughter, and so on while you work on you. Trust me, you can't change the past, but your future is yours. Don't let anyone rob you of that.

You didn't ask to have to reinvent yourself at this point, but since it's here, use the time to better you. MBA? Go for it. Hobbies? Go for it. Try them out and see if you like them. Do things for you and for you alone. Don't do them out of anger or for others. But realize that the anger is there for a reason. Use it to help you heal. Use it fuel your changes. Use it, but don't be used by it. It's not easy to say goodbye to the dreams, the hopes, the trust. But it can and will happen. While you work towards that, use that anger for your benefit and not to hurt people. That anger will be replaced by other emotions as well. Feel them. Let them be heard and don't be consumed by them. It's part of the process to healing and becoming a better you.


AJ