OK guy, good advice. I will talk to him about my feelings re the computer, but it isn't a problem that is coming up in the immediate future, so I can take a little time with it.
As you guys know, I have still been having the same frustrations that I had before the bomb in regard to lack of meaningful communication and emotional intimacy from Wolfie.
Pre-bomb, that was a problem that I had nearly learned to live with the status quo. Now I know that conflict avoidance isn't healthy for us and that I need some degree of emotional intimacy to feel fulfilled in a R.
I was thinking of all of this last night. I was also thinking about how H is able to express himself better in writing than verbally. He has written me several letters over the past 10 years that let me know that there IS a sensitive and passionate person under the surface. Believe me--those letters have gotten a lot of mileage because sometimes I've had to pull them out and re-read them over the years.
I was also thinking about how Thanksgiving is the first...for lack of a better term...Anniversary of Trauma. There will be more through the Holidays and through the end of January.
Suddenly, it occurred to me to ask for something...something specific that would help. I rolled over and said, "Wolfie, I would like you to write me a love letter and give it to me on Thanksgiving."
