yea, to heck with the house if you can keep your pension (or most of it)... I bought x out of the home, but only cause ?I could afford it and made finacial sense... You are in my earnest prayers til this mess over in court, the judge just has to see how crazy this looney is!
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
IT'S OVER. I'M OFFICIALLY DIVORCED! (Headlines on the hour, bulletins at once!)
She caved on the separation of child support and alimony and the payback of unreimbursed medical expenses (Remember, she took $121K out of the joint account when I was in Iraq and I never saw it again, so I refused to pay these, insisting it come out of the "stolen money")
I think her attorney in no way wanted to have her tell "her story"
She looked terrible! She looks like she lost 20 pounds, and not in a good way! (I think I found the 20 she lost!)
I'm not sad, I'm not nostalgic, I'm relieved. For at least 12 years, my life has been miserable. I looked across the coutroom at her and it was like looking at a corpse at a wake. All the soul, all the energy, all the joy had left her "shell".
Maybe it's because of a year in Iraq, maybe it's because Gym Woman came into my life a month after return, maybe it's just because I accepted it. Four years after wishing I was dead (and almost made sure that happened) I can't wait to move on with life.
Thanks to all of you who were always here from 2006 (when I posted every 10 minutes) right up until today.
You are all wonderful people who got caught up in one of the cruelest things one human can do to another. I wish you all the best.
So hopefully you will find your well deserved peace at last! Not often that I would want to offer congratulations on s divorce but I think in your case it is well deserved...CONGRATULATIONS!!!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
FLTC: Well, I was here since the beginning. And I KNOW your pain. Yours was a tough one for sure - I relate best to the most difficult splits since mine would easily make TOP TEN - LOL (though not really a laughing matter).
I am officially 5 years divorced now (9 years separated). Getting the D finalized was what pushed me forward the most. More than having a great new guy in my life, more than moving, more than ANYTHING! I was one who NEEDED the paper.
I am happy for you in that you can now move on. You don't need to talk to your ex anymore except regarding the welfare of your children. You know where you stand. The anger should dissipate (and you should try not to look back).
Congratulations to you, my friend. You fought the most important battle of your life. You are alive. You are strong. You are free!
Don't stop posting. We all live to hear good survivor stories.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
